Quick Poll: Has your partner met your doctor? And if so, was it helpful?

By Dr GaryCA Latest Activity February 18 at 11:15 am Views 2,027 Replies 2

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What about you and your partner? Are you always in sync on the what and the why and the how of your treatment regimen? And if not, does that sometimes result in miscommunication, along with frustration?

If so, have you ever thought of sitting down together and having a chat with your doctor? There are a lot of benefits to the three of you having a meeting together. For one thing, as Sally suggested, you would both have the same information. That means that, if you’re living with this condition, you don’t have to try and translate medical information. Your partner would get it straight from the doctor. Also, your physician has a unique perspective on what it takes to live with your diagnosis. He/she could explain how your condition and its treatment impacts you not only physically but emotionally. And the three of you could talk about how you and your partner can work together in a way that both of your needs are recognized and accommodated.

After all, when one member of the home is living with a chronic condition, everybody is living with it.

I wrote an article on this topic awhile back. Here’s a link:


I’m really interested in knowing if you and your partner have met with your doctor. If so, who’s idea was it? And was it helpful?

And if not, would you like your partner to sit down with you and your doctor. Why? And if not, why not?

Looking forward to hearing from you on this one.

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  • Marty#1
    Marty#1 March 6 at 6:47 pm   

    I don’t want my wife to meet my therapist as this is my very private safe space. Now all my other medical information and doctors appointments she is more then welcome to come with me and ask any and all questions.

    I should add that I am terminal with pancreatic cancer. But have suffered from depression long before.

  • Dr GaryCA March 8 at 12:39 pm   

    Hey Marty, it is great to meet you. So glad you checked in here. I totally understand that you would want that space to be yours and yours alone. Many of my clients feel the same way. I appreciate that you let me know what's going on with your health, I really do. Sounds like you have a supportive spouse. I am here for you, too. And I hope you will stay in touch. Take good care of yourself, my friend.

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