cmrunnin
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Hi cmrunnin,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend and husband. There are no words to describe what it is like to lose one's life partner.

We all grieve in our own unique way when we lose someone close to us, there are no rules, no guidelines, no "best practices." The grief process takes whatever time it takes.

But, I am wondering if you gave yourself adequate time to grieve. From what you described, it sounds like you jumped back into your life without taking time to process the loss of your husband. As a result, you may have short-circuited your own grieving process. The feelings don't go away, even when we don't acknowledge them.

You said you were crying for no apparent reason. But there may be a reason. You may be grieving over the loss of your husband.

Unresolved grief can over time turn into depression. From what you said, it sounds like doctor has this concern.

What I strongly recommend is that you reach out to a mental health professional and seek counseling. I can't emphasize enough the value of talk therapy as a way of dealing with loss. Talking can be healing. Telling the same story, over and over, and each time you tell it, something else clicks into place. That's how we process grief.

A mental health professional can also evaluate you for depression, as your doctor has suggested. If you are indeed depressed, then it's important to get some treatment underway as soon as possible. What you are experiencing is treatable. Don't go through this alone.

I am glad you checked in here. Reach out for help. Don't wait. And let us know how you're doing, okay?

Gary

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