Bellee`
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Hi Bellee,

It's great to be in touch with you, my friend. I am glad you reached out.

And I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's just so hard to have to spend five days a week, or more, with a bullying boss. To be honest, I had this experience many years ago, so I really feel your pain.

Here's a link to an article I posted just awhile back:

http://www.depressionconnect.com/depression-a...

Here is a recent article from Forbes that also discusses bully bosses:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/20...

I don't know all the details of yours situation, but I can give you some ideas based on helping clients with this issue. Here are some ideas to consider:

— If you work in a larger company, with an HR department, you might consider going to HR and having a talk about what's going on with your boss and asking for help.

— You might consider reaching out to someone in your company in a management role that you trust, and asking them for support and advice.

— Working with a therapist to develop some new coping skills could help, including how to interact with your boss in a way that allows you to take care of yourself and not be abused.

— Learning some techniques to "self sooth" yourself at work, so that you can help yourself cope with the painful effects of your boss's behavior.

— Sitting down with your boss and having a conversation about his/her behavior and how it is impacting you emotionally and, in turn, how it is affecting your productivity. (You may have tried this already.)

It's really important to get lots of support when you are going through a situation like this. I can't emphasize enough the value of having a therapist or a counselor to help you cope with the abuse at work. Again, if you are from a larger company, your company may offer an employee assistance program. Or ask your physician, or go to the website of your health insurance company.

And reach out to friends and family for support. It's really important to have people in your life who can listen and give you some comfort after a hard day.

By the way, I understand what you mean by dream job. And again, I don't know all the details of your situation. But if you are being treated so poorly, I just have to ask if there might be a similar role available to you in a setting with a more humanistic work environment.

Bellee, I really feel bad for you. I hope you will take good care of yourself. And keep in touch. Let us know how you're doing.

Gary

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