CarolinaJones
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Hi CarolinaJones,

Nice to see you, my friend.

Sounds like you are trying to figure out how to get along with people in your life who might be kind of annoying at times. I think that is something everybody has to deal with at times, or maybe all the time. We love our families but they can get on our nerves sometimes.

When I talk with my clients about this, I always encourage them to have compassion for the people in their life. I encourage them to try and focus on what you love most about that person, the connection you have with them, how important they are. And also to remind themselves that everybody is doing the best they can, some of us are doing a little better than others. If you can focus on what you love most about someone, it is easier to put up with their behaviors that bother you at times.

You might be somebody who likes to be quiet at times, who doesn't want to talk all the time. It might help to try to get off by yourself when you can, even if it just means going into your room to rest and read for awhile. Make time for your own quiet time.

If I had a client in your situation, when their loved one is talking up a storm, I might suggest they just say something like, "I've had a long day. I just need to be quiet for awhile. Can we talk about this later?" I think anything that is said out of love and respect can be heard by the other person.

Again, make time for yourself. Go off by yourself to be quiet when you need to. Take good care of yourself!

And keep us posted on how you're doing.

Gary

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