Hey KP,

It's good to hear from you. I am glad you checked in.

First, so sorry to hear you lost a parent. That's rough, I know.

Through my own personal experience and with my clients, as well as what I learned in my training, I can say with confidence that grief is a unique experience for each of us. We all through the grieve process in our individual way.

This may include dreams. When we are asleep, our defenses are down, and our minds are free to express our fears and desires through our dreams. This may include reliving something we have already experienced, or watching something we have thought about played out as if on a stage. We may remember our dreams, we may not. And our dreams may wake us up, leaving us feeling sad, anxious, afraid.

Dreams can also be a way for our subconscious minds to work through an event, such as a death.

It is normal to have dreams about someone you have lost. These may be more frequent during the weeks and months after that person has died, these dreams may shift and change as you work through your loss, and they may subside over time.

So, a couple of things.

Again, the nightmares may be part of how you are grieving. But I would add that I really recommend that you talk about your loss, with friends, family members, anyone who is willing to listen without judging you or trying to tell you what to do. Tell the story of your loss over and over, share memories, express your feelings. This will help you to come to terms with your loss. Talk about your nightmares as well. The best way to cope with grief is to talk. I also recommend considering meeting with a grief counselor to get some help with your grief.

But if the nightmares are causing you distress during your waking hours, or if you find yourself fearing or avoiding sleep for fear the nightmares will return, then I highly recommend that you meet with a therapist. A mental health professional could help you to understand better what's going on, and to help you find ways to cope.

Most of all, I encourage to take really good care of yourself. Get support. Stay active in your life.

I hope you will keep us posted on how you're doing.


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