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Hi appreciation 2018,

It's good to meet you. I have this discussion often. You sure are not alone. I am glad you checked in.

I am sure you are already aware of the what mental health professionals say to clients who are married to someone with an alcohol problem. So at the risk of repeating what you already are painfully aware of… Alcoholism is a disease. It doesn't go away. And while others can provide encouragement and support to an alcoholic, ultimately managing their addiction is all up to them. Nobody can do it for them.

And, as I am sure you know, the person suffering from alcoholism has to make the decision to get help on their own. This decision is out of the control of their loved ones.

But I suspect you know all of this.

What you can do is to get more support for yourself. I highly recommend getting connect with Alanon. This is an amazing organization for the loved ones of alcoholics. Here, you would meet people who are traveling the same road, feeling frustrated and helpless, at a loss for what to do. I think getting some support could help you a lot, if you are not already doing so.

This is a time to make yourself a priority, and get the support you need.

You might also want to sit down and talk to a counselor, who could provide an objective listening ear, and help you to learn some ways to cope with this very difficult situation.

Again, get support for yourself.

As you sort through your feelings about what you want and need in your life, as well as your feelings about your husband and his alcoholism, I think the way forward will be much clearer.

At the risk of sounding repetitive, take good care of yourself, my friend. Make yourself a priority. Get lots of support. Don't go through this alone.

And I really hope you will keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.

Gary

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